Although the circumstances may change, the struggles men are going through are remarkably similar.
Do any of these situations sound familiar to you?
- You’re in a committed relationship. So much about it is great. And you’re aware that not all your needs are being met in that relationship.You need closeness with other men too. It’s challenging to pursue and enjoy that … without rocking the boat in your relationship.
- You’re going through a big transition. Maybe a relationship is ending (or starting), perhaps a new job, or you may have moved or will soon be moving to a new location.At times like these when, more than ever, you need closeness and support from other men, it is harder to get.
- You are (or were) married to a woman. You want to explore intimacy with other men. Intimacy that might or might not include sex. You’ve thought about it for a long time and realize you can’t keep ignoring this need. Yet, you aren’t sure what to do, how to do this safely. Things are complicated. The responsibilities of being a husband, and maybe a parent, or even a community leader weigh on you.
- You’ve spent years hooking up and having sex with men. You have gay friends, and maybe have had a boyfriend or two. You’ve noticed, however, that it’s hard to connect with these men on an emotional and spiritual level. Something is missing.
- You experienced some kind of trauma, either recently or a long time ago. Therapy or other treatment has helped. And, yet, the trauma still lives in your body. You wish there was some way it could be released. Perhaps you also find it hard to trust others. Being touched is challenging too. You want it, and at the same time, you’re often not comfortable with being touched.
- You consider yourself bisexual. It’s easy to feel that you don’t fit in with men. Especially when so many gay men are uncomfortable with the fact that you also like women.
- You’ve spent a lot of time seeking pleasure with pornography and masturbation. You know that as fun and healthy as that can be, something is missing.
You’ve been hoping things will sort themselves out soon.
When you think about it, though, you realize you’ve been thinking this way for a long time now. Things are still pretty much the same.
The bottom line is you want more deep, meaningful connections with other men, but that just doesn’t seem to be happening.
If any of this sounds familiar I can help you.
My approach works for
- single or partnered gay men
- bisexual men
- men married to a woman (now or in the past)
- men with children at home
- retired men and middle-aged men
- men with disabilities or medical problems
- men who are comfortable about being heterosexual, and who want more non-sexual intimacy with other men
- straight men who are wondering if they might be gay or bisexual
What is possible for you?
Having worked with hundreds of men who are re-assessing their lives and wanting more, I’ve discovered there is a step-by-step process to having all parts of your life in alignment with who you truly are.
I can help you live that life with the fulfilling intimacy you yearn for.
But will it work for you?
You’ll find my approach most successful if most of the following statements are true about you:
- You take responsibility for your life. Sometimes you may not know what to do, but you want to move forward, and would like some support in doing so.
- You value reflection and discussion as a tool for personal growth, and are willing to consider new ideas.
- You know that long-term solutions are more valuable than quick fixes.
- You want to be more comfortable in your own skin. You know that what you surround yourself with and how you treat your body impacts your life.
- You value touch as a means of nourishment and communication.
- You are open to the possibility of tapping into trance states and to using erotic energy as creative forces in your life.
- You believe that your life can become better, that you can be happier. Sure, sometimes you’re just not sure how to get there, but you believe it’s possible.
- Deep down, you know that there are some things you need to begin doing differently. You are willing to work on that, and would like some support in the process.
Now, you may be wondering if it’s really possible for you to have more intimacy with men in your life. See for yourself at Finding the Missing Piece.
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